Individuals and organisations have become increasingly aware of the concept of Mental Toughness and its value, and this is a question that I am frequently asked.
There is a difference and, although the two ideas are closely related there are important differences.
Unfortunately, the terms these days are often used interchangeably which might mean that a desired outcome is targeted but not achieved. Moreover, resilience is often used in the Hoover sense of the word – its describes all vacuum cleaners but isn’t all vacuum cleaners.
Resilience has been defined as ‘the ability to recover from an adverse situation’ , suggesting that resilient individuals are able to cope with adversity when it arises. This description has begun to flex and change and there are now many definitions which import ideas from positive psychology. I think this fudges the issue, and the concept of psychological resilience is drifting more closely to the concept of mental toughness.
We get people who, when we describe Mental Toughness, will say “that’s what I mean by resilience”. My response is “you are no longer describing resilience, you are describing mental toughness”
However if an adverse situation arises, and the person copes with it, they can be and often are described as resilient. But that doesn’t necessarily mean that they are positive about the experience. They may have simply gritted their teeth and got on with it, because ‘needs must’ for instance.
Without something else coming into play – a positive mindset – overexposure to setback and adversity may wear the individual out.
In its purest form resilience could be considered a passive or perhaps neutral quality. “I am resilient because I have to be resilient”. Not “…. because I want to be ….”
In the late 20th Century, Suzanne Kobasa, looked at resilient managers and found that some responded differently to stress pressure and challenge than others, although all sought to be resilient. She found that some adopted a positive approach to adversity and challenge sometimes even seeking this out. She found that this predisposition towards exposure to challenge and risk often meant that these individuals dealt better psychologically with set-back (and repeated setback). She called this Hardiness to separate it from the idea of Resilience.
With the addition of the idea of Confidence this has now emerged as Mental Toughness. This is defined as ‘a personality trait which determines in large part how individual deal with stress, pressure and challenge irrespective of circumstances’. A mentally tough individual sees challenge and adversity as an opportunity and not a threat and has the confidence and positive approach to take what comes in their stride.
Resilience and Mental Toughness are related. Most if not all mentally tough individuals are resilient but not all resilient individuals are mentally tough. The difference lies in the positive component.
The Oxford English Dictionary (on-line) defines Resilience as ‘the ability to recover quickly from difficulties’. This describes an ability to recover from an adverse situation either largely or completely. It does not necessarily imply that the person has a positive feeling about the negative situation. It simply means that “something has gone awry, but I am going to grit my teeth, pick myself up and I still believe that I can do some or all of what I originally intended, despite this set back, and I am going to do my best to achieve some or all of my goals”.
I would commonly describe someone who does this as a resilient individual. Although it will help that an individual is optimistic or positive, this is not a necessary condition for resilience.
Consequently a person who is resilient without optimism and confidence can be resilient but may find the going tough and may be more likely to wilt if the requirement is too frequent or too sustained.
Confusingly the Oxford English Dictionary offers Toughness as an alternative description of Resilience.
Is the distinction important? I believe so.
Both Resilience and Mental Toughness are developed through experiential learning. Either though targeted development, coaching or simply living through life’s experiences.
The outcome is subtly different but important in the VUCA world (Volatile, Uncertain, Complex and Ambiguous) where everyone experiences change, challenge, ambiguity and setback more frequently and more quickly than ever before. Adopting a positive mindset is important. This is about being ‘comfortable in your own skin’ and accepting life’s ups and downs as part of the journey through life. It’s part of the process of personal development.
We might usefully think of the difference in terms of the phrase ‘survive and prosper’. Resilience helps you to survive (but not always) and Mental Toughness helps you to thrive (but, again, not always).
It matters because the outcome is more positive leading to:
Better performance
Better and sustained wellbeing
Development of positive behaviours
Greater level of aspiration
Building relationships with others more quickly and more strongly
Singly or in combination these produce better outcomes for organisations and individuals.
The way we deal with the question in the title now is to ask the questioner to define or describe Resilience. Then to describe for them how we see the difference. Essentially what we are doing here is introducing psychological well-being and positive psychology into the explanation.
If they continue to maintain that Resilience is the same, then ask them to define what it is when individuals face up to adversity and challenge but don’t like doing it.